The words guilt, regret, and boundaries have come up multiple times this week as I’ve presented to different groups.
Guilt and regret around not following through on goals we set for ourselves.
Guilt for making our families the priority and needing to set boundaries with people in order to make that happen.
Guilt about making someone feel bad if we set a boundary with them, but then constantly regretting that we haven’t set the boundary yet.
It’s quite the vicious cycle.
My interview with the “unstuck” coach, Jordan, went live this week, and as I was listening to it again, there’s something he said that hit me.
“Anything that really matters, you’re not going to lose”.
It’s easy to feel like every decision we make has the ability to either move us 12 steps forward, or 15 steps back from the life that we’ve built up until this point. But if we can change our mindset to understand that the decisions we make will only move the needle a little bit, it feels a lot less intimidating to make decisions that feel like they hold a lot of weight.
But here’s the thing… The needle moves forward and backward. With every decision, and step we make, there is always an opportunity to move the needle in the right direction. You will always have an opportunity to change course if you need to, but it’s important to be asking ourselves the right questions and continuing to evaluate what we want to make sure we’re not inadvertently creating momentum in the wrong direction.
You get to be your first priority.
You get to be selfish if it means putting you and your family first.
The more you flex your boundary setting muscle, the easier it will be, and the more people will respect the boundaries you set.
Feeling regret about not following through on what you said you wanted, it's just a nudge telling you that you need to re-evaluate your priorities and how realistic your goal actually is.
You set these goals and boundaries for yourself, so how can you follow through on them in a way that sets you up for success while also allowing you to enjoy the process.
In today’s podcast episode, I go through the 9 things that people tend to feel guilty for that they shouldn't, and how to change that mindset to make sure it’s serving you.
Keep that needle moving forward! (I’ll let you in on a secret, setting boundaries is number 5 and 6 ;)
